Bourn Sisters
posted in Mum StoriesFrom a really young age I've always wanted to have two children. My sister and I have such a strong close bond and I want that for my children, but when's the right time to try for my second?
My little boy is five months old now and since having him another baby is a pretty scary thing to think about. People say that having two so close in age is much easier as they're both at similar stages, but I can't help but see that as just utter chaos!
I feel like a newborn baby takes up so much of your time and emotions, how would I have any left for my first born, not to mention my partner? He's eager to have more children already but I feel like that's because he didn't have to go through pregnancy and birth and the aftermath.
I thought I'd be over it by now, but I'm genuinely not. Thinking about my birth experience has made me question whether I want more children. Don't get me wrong, my little boy was worth all the pain, but should I go through it again for another child?
I'm constantly torn, but feel like the positives of another baby definitely outweigh the negatives of birth. The age gap between my sister and I is three years which I have always said is the perfect gap. We were always close enough to share toys, friends and clothes!
That was before I was a mum and didn't appreciate the amount of work it takes to have babies so close together. I now look at woman with two under two and think, wow you're a super mum!
I believe there is no real 'perfect gap' but we will just work with whatever happens. I can't wait to have another baby one day but just want this time right now to enjoy my little boy.
Hattie x
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